The greatest sadness I experience as a therapist happens when I urge clients to begin attending 12 Step meetings appropriate to their particular problem and the client recoils in horror. They would rather die, they say, than go to "those meetings." The truth is, without becoming humble enough to acknowledge they have a deadly problem, some of these people will die humiliating, excruciatingly painful deaths. What do those of us who know the miracles of 12 Step Recovery do to reduce the toxic shame attached to 12 Step Programs? Maybe more of us need to say what we're doing when people ask.
I've listened to many people tell about being asked what was causing the positive changes they were demonstrating, who then refused to say they were in 12 Step Recovery. Why? Because they were fearful that the questioner would think them silly or inferior if they told the truth. All 12 Step Programs operate under the law of attraction not promotion. But nowhere in all the literature can I find a single word about lying or withholding the truth when asked what's causing the positive changes. If we're truly working a 12 Step Program, we can't help but be better people and the people around us are bound to notice that. They are attracted to our growth. How many thousands of people, maybe millions of people, have NOT gotten recovery because we were ashamed of being in 12 Step Recovery?
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